On Again/Off Again

“Never thought about the anxious-avoidant pull push drama could extend over decades... I thought they fizzle out in a couple of years max cause its just exhausting. Yet the woman is still saying she wants to care for him and he says we are m…”

“He is classically avoidant. And unless he’s willing to change that, she will carry the emotional load of the relationship. These “off and on” couples are trauma bonded in my opinion. They don’t have the relationship skills to have a healthy…”

“the on again off again cycle isnt passion, its just exhaustion dressed up as chemistry”

“Hmm, it sounds like she has romanticized his potential based on their connection as teenagers and early adults. It also sounds like she believes that she can unlock this potential and inspire him to believe in himself. Meanwhile, he seems t…”