SCOUT· 64%37m·2026-08-17·Arts CultureCan I Be Loved?
A young woman writes to Esther asking why she is interested in someone emotionally unavailable. Despite efforts to break this pattern, she realizes that some of her behaviors are rooted in a deep sense of control and the need to feel worthy of her parents' sacrifices. Esther walks her through this need for control and…
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“Therapists must have the patience of a saint. Trying to wade through all the walls, narratives and fog to find a fear at the center with such care. I don’t think I could ever do it.”
“Only 5 seconds in and I know this one is for me. 😩”
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“What an extraordinarily self-aware and emotionally mature young woman. Kudos to her for wanting better for herself and being deliberate about how she and with whom she enters into relationship.”
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