SCOUT· 43%24m·2026-07-16·Relationships#273: Attachment & Conflict (Part 2): Avoidant Attachment
Register for the Secure Self Challenge here In today's episode, we're talking once again about how attachment patterns shape our experience of conflict in relationships, with a particular focus on avoidant attachment. We talk about why avoidant folks instinctively pull back from conflict, as well as often-used…
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“2) re the bit around 8:02 and the avoidant feeling overwhelmed... The analogy I use is that when someone else arrives with big emotions, it is like they have pulled out a knife. My system feels like things just got REALLY dangerous. And I a…”
“I wonder if you could do a video on anxious attachment and anger issues. My anger towards my avoidant partner has been getting out of hand and I feel really ashamed. But feeling invalidated and dismissed is so painful and I lose control in…”
“1) Coming from the avoidant side, I appreciated the part around 17:21 and wanted to give my POV on how that has felt in relationships. Feeling genuine love as an avoidant, I would just like to hang out with my partner and have a pleasant ti…”
“I shared this video with my wife, and she better understood her anxious anxiety and my fearful avoidant anxiety and how conflict makes her attack and me withdraw. Awareness is the first step in healing! Thanks!!”
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