SCOUT· 41%21m·2026-09-17·Relationships#281: When You Want to Work on the Relationship But Your Partner Doesn't
So many people will know the frustration of wanting to work on your relationship and being met with resistance, shutdown, or disengagement from a partner. When your sincere attempts at getting through and finding a path forward aren't landing, it's easy to feel hopeless—and confused as to what it means for your…
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“Gross!! Unless had kids with somebody, the idea that there is “work” that “needs to be done” just for me to be with someone is so disgusting that I would call a moving company and go away, like, as soon as possible. If something bad happens…”
“I don’t understand the obsession with trying to make things work with someone (an avoidant) that clearly lacks the capacity and abilities. That would like taking your car to a shitty mechanic and he keeps breaking the car and you’re like, n…”
“So happy to have found your page! Everything you're saying definitely hits the anxiousness I have in this new relationship I'm in. Being able to hear the language to describe what is happening in a growing and changing dynamic for me is ver…”
“I think if you are not avoidant, you might underestimate the appeal of "just stop thinking about it and the problem will go away." But it really is a big part of how we think! Especially in cases where something bad has happened, the instin…”
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