SCOUT· 65%1h 20m·2026-09-10·RelationshipsQ&A! Confessing To Cheating A Decade Later & Crushing On Your BFF's Boyfriend - Ep 489
It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! You're happily married with kids but you carry a secret from a decade ago, before starting a family. Is it worth rocking the boat to tell the truth all these years later? If you like your coworker but hate how she ALWAYS cuts you off, what's the best way to…
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“Q2: It's not ok to gaslit people that we claim to love out of fear of the negative consequences that we might face. Telling your partner about 1 of your 3 cheating activities and thinking that's fine isn't remotely ok. If OP was honest from…”
“Q2 - ignore me, for I am but a child. But here's my 2 cents: It sounds like you guys have a decent relationship right now, but it's not strong. 1. You are in couples therapy to "strengthen" your relationship. 2. He thinks you are lying to h…”
“I think for the cheating question the crime is no longer the cheating. He forgave that. Now the crime is lying and gaslighting him. I hate that he knows and she’s trying to make him believe a lie. If it’s being brought up in therapy current…”
“33:30 You guys are saying it's a lifetime ago but you do realize it's still on his mind. He's bringing it up in therapy. They're wasting money on therapy because she's continuing to lie to his face.”
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