The show, episode by episode

If I Speak

Novara Media

Ash Sarkar and Moya Lothian-McLean sort the personal from the political, tackle listener dilemmas and air their opinions on the frustrations of modern life.

If I Speak

126: What if you don&#8217;t have to feel anxious 24/7?

125: Is the era of conspicuous consumption nearly over?

124: Are you afraid of being ordinary?

123: How can I get better at dealing with rejection?

122: Can you change who you&#8217;re attracted to? w/ Annie Lord

121: Is it time to stop height-shaming men?

120: Help! I&#8217;m dreading moving to the suburbs with my partner

119: I know I should forgive my enemies… but what if I don’t want to?

118: Can a hen party ever be chic?

117: Is screen addiction ruining our connection to art?

116: I can&#8217;t stop worrying about money. Is there a way out?

115: Help! My partner has been hiding huge debts from me

114: Why we can’t let go of the girl boss

113: Should I go &#8216;no contact&#8217; with my parents?

112: Should you chase a holiday romance?

111: Do we need more women mentors?

110: How Andrew Tate poisoned a generation of young men w/ Jamie Tahsin and Matt Shea

109: How can I tell my parents I’m a stripper? Your dilemmas solved w/ Shon Faye

108: Is it time to quit your job? w/ William Rayfet Hunter

107: Do we love success but hate ambition?

106: When does the mask become the face?

105: How can I connect during sex?

104: Why are young Brits flocking to Dubai?

103: Will getting back to nature heal my feelings of burnout?

102: I&#8217;m not ready for a relationship – but I don&#8217;t want him to see other people

101: Her toxic ex returned and now our friendship is ruined

100: We’re 100 episodes old – ask us anything!

99: How do you know when it&#8217;s time to quit?

98: Are we obsessed with having our feelings validated?

97: When will I start feeling like a grown-up?

96: Why are women choosing looks instead of books?

95: Does British culture need saving? w/ Lanre Bakare

94: Resentment, hostility, scarcity… is this modern dating? w/ Jordan Stephens

93: I’m addicted to guilt. What’s wrong with me?

92: Should we say something about women’s shrinking bodies?

91: If there&#8217;s no &#8216;ethical consumption&#8217;, can just I buy what I want?

90: Are rightwing politics affecting my sex life? w/ Dr Annabel Sowemimo

89: Am I doomed to get more conservative as I get older?

88: What are the ethics of oversharing?

87: I&#8217;m losing interest in my fiancée. Should she make more effort?

86: Why do we lap up other people’s horror stories?

85: Has pop culture turned to slop? w/ Kemi Alemoru

84: How to ace a first date (by two very different daters)

83: Is jealousy the spice of life?

82: Help! I can&#8217;t stop hating men

81: Is it wrong to love my AI boyfriend?

80: September is the real new year. Will your resolution stick this time?

79: Help! I’ve moved back home and now my mum hates me

78: What does it take to feel safe?

77: What&#8217;s the difference between a girl and a woman?

76: How porn went mainstream and changed everything w/ Sophie Gilbert

75: The world needs more flirting. Here&#8217;s how

74: Can your racial identity change over time?

73: Where did it all go wrong on the dancefloor?

72: Why does it always have to be me taking responsibility?

71: If I&#8217;m so angry then why am I crying?!

70: Can you ever change what you want?

69: Is marriage a hard border? w/ Jeremy Atherton Lin

68: Help! My housemate is a pig

67: What’s up with Generation Alpha?

66: I&#8217;m right, you&#8217;re wrong, end of!

65: Has your smartphone broken your brain?

64: What is the female gaze?

63: Do people just want to be told what to do?

62: I’m not sure I want to call myself a feminist anymore&#8230;

61: Can friendships cross class lines? w/ Natasha Brown

60: Are we too addicted to convenience?

59: Does my ex owe me money for the house we renovated?

58: I want to be fun again. Help!

57: Do you really want to know about your partner&#8217;s past mistakes?

56: The one where Moya grills Ash on her new book

55: Joy is an act of resistance&#8230; right?

54: Forget the boycott, gimme that brand deal

53: Getting &#8216;the ick&#8217;

52: Happy birthday IIS! Now ask us anything&#8230;

51: Am I feminine enough for you?

50: The return of the slur

49: We need to see more wrinkles on screen!

48: Is it time to cut off my lying dad?

126: What if you don’t have to feel anxious 24/7?

122: Can you change who you’re attracted to? w/ Annie Lord

120: Help! I’m dreading moving to the suburbs with my partner

116: I can’t stop worrying about money. Is there a way out?

113: Should I go ‘no contact’ with my parents?

102: I’m not ready for a relationship – but I don’t want him to see other people

99: How do you know when it’s time to quit?

91: If there’s no ‘ethical consumption’, can just I buy what I want?

87: I’m losing interest in my fiancée. Should she make more effort?

82: Help! I can’t stop hating men

77: What’s the difference between a girl and a woman?

75: The world needs more flirting. Here’s how

71: If I’m so angry then why am I crying?!

66: I’m right, you’re wrong, end of!

62: I’m not sure I want to call myself a feminist anymore…

57: Do you really want to know about your partner’s past mistakes?

55: Joy is an act of resistance… right?

53: Getting ‘the ick’

52: Happy birthday IIS! Now ask us anything…

42: Why won’t they just break up?

39: I’m in big trouble! Your dilemmas answered

35: Help! My scatty friends can’t meet my standards

34: How mean can you be to other people’s kids?

31: Why isn’t my best friend excited about my wedding?

27: I’m in big trouble! Your dilemmas answered

26: I’m so sorry, I’m English

24: Help! What’s my purpose in life?

19: We’re boiling with rage

13: I’m the problem, it’s me

11: Help! My partner’s too posh

10: Do I have to be nice to my friend’s partner?